Stop Living Other People's Truths — Here's How To Find Your Own
How To Recognise When You're Living Someone Else's Story
The Weekly Compass - Truth
What is truth? For many years, I thought I knew what it was. I was convinced that my way of thinking was correct and that everyone who didn’t think like me was wrong.
Then one day, the truth that I had believed in began to crack. Just a few small cracks at first, hardly noticeable. Then they gradually widened so that I couldn’t ignore them any longer.
This is how changes happen.
For me, it was my belief system, but it could quite easily be a relationship too. That happened to me a few years ago too.
These awakenings led me to a very important truth, probably the most important of my life, and that was finding my truth.
That changed my life in ways I never expected and is a truth I will never turn my back on because it’s a truth I found, not one that was told to me. It’s the truth of who I am, the real me, my authentic self.
Below are some teachings and practices that helped me on this journey and continue to help me daily.
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A Quote to Start the Week
Carl Jung said,
“The privilege of a lifetime is to become who you truly are.”
When we stop living someone else’s truth and start discovering and living our own, it can be painful and rather scary. We have to let go of what we thought was right and stand on our own, sometimes losing people in the process.
We can even lose ourselves at first, not knowing who we are yet. There is a gap between the two states, before we become our truth.
But when we honour the truth that comes from within, it’s a beautiful gift, and one that we never need turn our backs on.
A Simple Practice
Whose voice is this?:
Take five quiet minutes today. Sit with your journal or just in stillness, and ask yourself:
What belief or thought have I been carrying that no longer feels like mine?
Is it about love? Success? What makes a “good” person?
Where did it come from — a parent, a teacher, a community?
Now ask:
What do I believe, deep down, when I listen to myself and not to others?
Write whatever comes, even if it’s messy or unsure or makes no sense.
This is how we begin to separate inherited truths from our own.
A Meditation to Support You
Remember Who You Are: A Meditation to Reconnect and Heal
Coming Home to Yourself: A Guided Meditation for Self-Connection
Music to Set the Tone
Book to Read This Week
Any book that helps you think differently and question things is a good book to read, but this is one that really started me thinking about what my own truth was and is.
This is a book all about what it means to live from your inner knowing rather than from external expectations.
Glennon’s journey of breaking away from a life that she always thought was “right” to live a life that was true for her resonated so very deeply with me, and my finding it was perfect timing.
It’s raw and honest and very affirming for anyone who is in the process of discovering their own truth.
A Mantra for the Week
“Living my truth is the most important thing for me to do. No matter what.”
Repeat it often. Write it on Post-Its, in your journal.
One Thing to Do
Take a few minutes each day this week to reflect on whether you are living your life or living someone else’s idea of what your life should be.
This Week’s Compass Reminder:
The truth that changes your life doesn’t come from outside — it rises from within.
Let this be the week you stop following someone else’s story and start listening to your own. Your truth is waiting.
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