How I Rebuilt My Ability To Trust After Years Of Betrayal
Why Your Body Knows Who To Trust Before Your Mind Does
The Weekly Compass - Trust
What happens when the very people who should have taught us how to trust… are the ones who taught us to fear instead?
If that’s your story, you’re not alone.
I’ve lived it too, and I know that rebuilding trust isn’t about forgetting what happened.
It’s about learning to feel safe inside your own skin again.
Trust is one of the most fragile and delicate, yet vital parts of being human.
When it’s been broken, especially early in life by those who were supposed to protect us, or by someone we thought we could always count on, it can feel impossible to ever regain it again.
I know what it’s like to carry that weight. The constant questioning of people’s motives, the overthinking, the fear of being let down.
But without trust, we live half-lives.
We stay guarded, closed off, always waiting for the other shoe to drop.
The truth is, to live fully, we must be able to trust again, not blindly and thoughtlessly, but wisely, with discernment and courage.
To be truly free, we have to be able to trust.
A Quote to Begin the Week
“Trust yourself. You know more than you think you do.” — Benjamin Spock
This reminds me that our intuition is rarely wrong, we’ve just forgotten how to listen.
I’ve worked very hard over the years to hone my intuition and when I listen, it’s never wrong.
What I’m Learning
I’ve been thinking about how much we overcomplicate trust. We analyse people’s words, their behaviour, we play scenarios over and over in our heads.
But when I tune in quietly, my intuition always knows who feels safe and who doesn’t. It’s when I ignore that inner voice that I get into trouble.
I’ve learned that trust begins within. If I can trust myself, my instincts, my choices, my ability to handle whatever comes, I can extend that outwards without fear of making a mistake that will take me back to square one.
A Simple Practice
This week, try a short trust check-in:
Place your hand over your heart.
Think of someone in your life.
Notice what happens in your body - do you feel open and calm, or tense and unsettled?
Your body often tells you the truth before your mind does.
Nourishment for the Body
Trusting yourself also shows up in how you care for your body. So often we follow fad diets or external “rules,” but our bodies carry incredible wisdom.
Start small: before each meal, pause and ask yourself, what do I really need right now?
Sometimes it’s vegetables, sometimes it’s rest, sometimes it’s water.
Practising this, builds self-trust from the inside out.
A Meditation to Support You
You can listen to my Self-Love Meditation on my podcast.
Learning to love and trust yourself is the first step in being able to trust others.
Self Love Meditation: The Life Changing Power of Putting Yourself First
It can be easy to forget the importance of showing ourselves the same kindness we offer others.
A Track I Want to Share
A Book to Read This Week
I’m giving away 10 copies of my book The Synergy Game. You can claim yours here: https://BookHip.com/ZFLSCHD and start reading it straight away.
If you’d like a physical copy there is a link at the end of this post.
This Week’s Compass Reminder
Trust is a muscle we rebuild.
Start by trusting yourself.
Your inner wisdom, your body, your choices.
When you do, trusting others begins to feel less like a risk and more like a natural extension of who you are.
I’ve put all the helpful resources I’ve created into one place - The Rebuild Compass Toolkit.
Feel free to browse through it and see what resonates with you. It’s there to support you, whenever you’re ready.
If you’d like a free 7 day trial just send me a message and I’ll make it happen :)
